Eventually, I’ll share more and more of my own story with you about how a Theology of the Body has brought me to real freedom, real love and real manhood. But, to make a long story short, as most of you know anyway, Alicia said “yes,” to me. We've in our fourth year of marriage and we’ve been blessed with our first child who is two. His name is Isaac Joseph. Isaac is a very Eucharistic name. Joseph is the foster-father of Jesus. Many people ask me, “Hey Benjamin since you were in seminary for about 6 years learning and preparing for priesthood, when did you meet Alicia. Is that why you left?” I met Alicia about eight months after I exited seminary at Church just before Sunday
Alicia and I profess and follow faithfully the Catholic Church and her teachings on human sexuality and marriage, as well as the entire deposit of faith she received from Jesus and the Apostles by way of the Holy Spirit handed down by the Bishops and the Pope(s), the Successor of Peter. We stand with the Magisterium, the teaching authority of the Church which consists of the Bishops in union with the Pope, and we love being Catholic. There is chastity inside and outside of marriage, Alicia and I often remember and so I’ll also be talking about chastity outside of marriage for those of you who are unwed at this time (which is most of you). But, with God’s help, Alicia and I live the hard, difficult teachings such as Natural Family Planning (which is really beautiful and life giving) and we want to share many of these “teachings” with you from the context of the late Holy Father, Pope John Paul II’s catechesis entitled: A Theology of the Body. Since God reveals himself to us in his creation he also reveals himself to us in the crown of his creation which is humanity and the human person who is made up of body and soul. If we are able to look at the man and woman whom he created each for the other (Gen. 1-2) we can learn about God. The body can be like a map that God is using to reveal himself and his “Beatitude.” Instead of looking away from our bodies in disgust, perversion, scandal, and disorder like this culture does, we can look at our bodies as God intended them to be looked at. Especially we will be looking at what God intended for erotic love which is the love proper for married persons. Erotic love is not supposed to be a dirty phrase. A Theology of the Body is how we can look at the body of a man and woman, and especially the two bodies together, connected, joined, in conjugal love, sex and marriage, to discover God’s plan for life and love. We’ll talk lots about being chaste as single people, since that is the situation for the youth group and this is written for an audience of youth who are High School age and beyond. Those of you who are married will benefit lots from this teaching too.
Some of the questions we’ll be attempting to understand and answer are the following: What is chastity? What’s wrong with non-marital sex outside of marriage? What is marriage? What is sex within marriage supposed to be like? What is wrong with contraception? What is wrong with masturbation? What is wrong with pornography? What does it mean to be engaged? What is Christian dating? What is virginity? Where can I find a good guy? a good girl? What about kissing, touching, flirting, and boundaries in dating and beyond? How far is too far when it comes to sex? What about same-sex attraction? What about divorce? What is womanhood / manhood? What can I do if I’m not a virgin? What is purity? How can people even be pure today? There are so, so many questions. I haven’t written them all down here and there are more we’ll have to ask. Please feel free to submit questions on the blog anonymously if you’d like. Again, I’m going to be using a lot of help form the experts such as Christopher West, who brought the Theology of the Body home to me when I was in seminary and Jason and Crystalina Evert who are nationally know chastity educators for youth. Our Lady of the Holy Rosary, Mary the Mother of God, pray for us.